Where are your manners?

Etiquette! What is etiquette? It is a set of rules and code of our social behaviour. So why is it important to smartphones and FOBO? It is because since our addiction, we have seemed to lose our manners in social settings. When you are out in a restaurant, how many people do you see on their phones?? Way too many to count.

We have looked at some research done by Pew and combined it with our knowledge of smartphone usage

So here  we have a new set of rules for –


The DOs

  • use your phone in public spaces, even with the risk of walking into things. Everyone in the study agreed that it was ok to be on your phone in public areas
  • send messages in front of friends and family provided it is quick. It is a lot easier to read a text than send one, so people generally feel it is more acceptable
  • use your phone to take videos and photos. It is also allowed to post said photos or videos on social media, texts or whatever. Most young adults and teenagers do automatically, so  that is a little hard to stop
  • take phone calls in front of people. 52% of respondents said they do.
  • use your phone to look up relevant or important information! Google searches, ‘where are you?’ texts, what is happening tomorrow in the calendar – are all ok!

The DON’Ts

  • use your phones in meetings, work settings, class rooms, movies, anywhere you are expected to be attentive to someone else. Nine in 10 people said it was rude and unacceptable to use phones there.
  • use your phone at meals or eating when with other people, at home or at a restaurant. It is a big NO NO!!
  • use your phone as a shield to avoid someone or conversations. Apparently it is more common with women to use phones to avoid something/someone or they are bored
  • check notifications and your phone when you are with someone else. Only if it is necessary and a reason for it.

Most should be common sense but it will be hard to adjust. I mean sadly what happened to looking someone in the eye and giving people all your attention?  We used to see phones as a tool or as what it originally was invented for, to improve communication instead of the latter. Now we are allowing this tool to change our lives and the way we adapt to society. Phones are not really an issue, it is more the way they are used.

So use your manners and remember the smartphone etiquette or it’s #ByeFelicia to you!


x BL x


10 Ways To Overcome Your FOBO

A Gallup poll confirmed that 81% of people keep their phones with them ­almost all the time and 63% while they  are sleeping and 60% check emails regularly while on holidays.


There are 10  ways that you can help your FOBO!! They are so easy and simple to do, can you believe that.

  1. Don’t bring your phone to bed. Leave it outside your room or somewhere you can’t reach for it in bed

2. Sign out of those annoying email accounts. If you didn’t see it, it didn’t happen 😛

3. Turn off those Instagram, Snapchat and Facebook notifications. That way in the morning you don’t see what you have missed. Mute those conversations.

4. Track the time you spend on your phone. Use apps or set alarms for how long to be using your phone.

5. Turn your phone off at night. Simple as that.

6. Dedicate a day to be a social media free day.

7. Put your phone chargers in weird places around the house so you have to go out of your way to charge your phone. Also your separation anxiety will get better

8. Don’t take your phone or turn it off/silent or leave it in your bag when at work, class or doing assignments. This will allow you to give your full attention to whatever at hand.

9. Move all your favourite apps and the ones you access the most to the last page of your phone so to use it, it is more of a chore.

10. Wear a watch so you don’t have to check the time on your phone. But none of that Apple Watch stuff, a real watch.

It is hard to remove yourself from this addiction but they do say – “It took you a long time to fall in love; it will take you a long time to fall out of it.” But we got you 🙂

List some more ways to create boundaries down below and share your thoughts!!

x BL x

‘I Forgot My Phone’

A short film was conducted in 2013 called ‘I Forgot My Phone’. It detailed the obsession with our phones and how we are becoming more isolated and not being invovled in real life. It has over 48 million views and was created by comedian and actress Charlene deGuzman.

The videos starts with a couple in bed, the woman played by deGuzman, with the boyfriend fixated on his phone rather than cuddling with her. It goes through regular day to day activities showing the life of someone without a phone. Instead of it portraying the positives of not having a phone like enjoying friends company, activities and life. It shows how lonely it can be and how isolated you really are.

tumblr_ns69zicdIB1u6uyh0o1_500The video shows scenes of deGuzman at lunch with her friends while they are on their phones, concerts with people filming it, recording and taking photos instead of listening, talking selfies and many others. It gives people another view of what smartphone usage looks like to an outsider and it ain’t pretty!

This video is a great representation of what is happening in today’s society. We might be ‘social’ and ‘involved’ when out with friends but we are not physically there. How many times have you  been out at dinner and been on your phone or been with someone else on their phone.  We are missing out on life and big moments because we are all too busy texting, Snapchatting and Instagraming the moment instead of actually being present and living them.

Not only is it lonely, but people are missing out on or forgetting basic subtle cues when with people. These missed facial expressions and eye contact change the whole conversation, tone and context. You may as well text them instead. Wifi and being online has become a basic need.


x BL x


What Are You Really Missing Out On?

Our phones are literally glued to our hands 24/7, from the moment our alarm goes off to the moment our phones slip and hit us in the face in bed. Our phones are literally distracting us from what is happening around us! What are we actually missing as we have our heads buried in our phone? Have you ever wondered?

How about we give you a list of some of the crazy and great things you aren’t seeing!

1.That cute photo shoot for their new Instagram selfie


2. A potential bae that  just walked past. They checked you out but you were replying to that text.


3. That wall or tree right in front of you!!!!


4. the beautiful scenery and view.


But on a serious note!

There are many dangers to not looking up and being aware of what is happening around you.

  1. Someone following you – if you aren’t paying attention to what is happening, you could be followed and attacked. It is better to be alert at night and when alone
  2. Oncoming vehicles – pedestrian injuries due to phone use are up 35% since 2010
  3. Missing important information – whether safety information, tips for that hard essay or some of the latest goss
  4. Getting lost – you may completely get yourself lost and what happens if you are out of data or don’t have reception??

So every now and then look up and see the crazy things going on and protect yourself. Maybe even save your always declining battery and data limit!

x BL x

Iowa State University Gets Indepth


So where has the phrase nomophobia actually come from? Iowa State University decided to tackle this new mental anxiety head on. Caglar Yildirim, one of the study’s authors defines nomophobia as

“It refers to fear of not being able to use a smartphone … [and] it refers to the fear of not being able to communicate, losing the connectedness that smartphones allow, not being able to access information through smartphones, and giving up the convenience that smartphones provide.”


They have created 20 questions for readers to answer  to see where they sit with their phone anxiety levels. The quiz asks people to respond to questions like “If I were to run out of credits or hit my monthly data limit, I would panic” and “If I could not check my smartphone for a while, I would feel a desire to check it. This study was tested on 300 undergraduates and some of their key findings were:

“Four dimensions of nomophobia were identified: not being able to communicate, losing connectedness, not being able to access information and giving up convenience,”

Nomophobia is a very interesting concept – why are we so fascinated by it? Our lives are constantly surrounded by technology and being connected. When was the last time you turned off your phone before bed? We don’t seem to be able to let go.

Check out the questionnaire yourself and let us know in the poll below your results! How many to you relate to. The higher scores corresponded to greater nomophobia severity.

  1. I would feel uncomfortable without constant access to information through my smartphone.
  2. I would be annoyed if I could not look information up on my smartphone when I wanted to do so.
  3. Being unable to get the news (e.g., happenings, weather, etc.) on my smartphone would make me nervous.
  4. I would be annoyed if I could not use my smartphone and/or its capabilities when I wanted to do so.
  5. Running out of battery in my smartphone would scare me.
  6. If I were to run out of credits or hit my monthly data limit, I would panic.
  7. If I did not have a data signal or could not connect to Wi-Fi, then I would constantly check to see if I had a signal or could find a Wi-Fi network.
  8. If I could not use my smartphone, I would be afraid of getting stranded somewhere.
  9. If I could not check my smartphone for a while, I would feel a desire to check it.

If I did not have my smartphone with me:

  1. I would feel anxious because I could not instantly communicate with my family and/or friends.
  2. I would be worried because my family and/or friends could not reach me.
  3. I would feel nervous because I would not be able to receive text messages and calls.
  4. I would be anxious because I could not keep in touch with my family and/or friends.
  5. I would be nervous because I could not know if someone had tried to get a hold of me.
  6. I would feel anxious because my constant connection to my family and friends would be broken.
  7. I would be nervous because I would be disconnected from my online identity.
  8. I would be uncomfortable because I could not stay up-to-date with social media and online networks.
  9. I would feel awkward because I could not check my notifications for updates from my connections and online networks.
  10. I would feel anxious because I could not check my email messages.
  11. I would feel weird because I would not know what to do.

x BL x

FOBO Drake Style

Drake is a master lyricists so its only reasonable that we can all relate to his lyrics and feelings. He literally speaks to us! Lets be real Drake’s the type of dude to lick his fingers before turning the page on a iPad.


He understands FOBO so very well, so lets break down some of his lyrics and see his hidden FOBO messages:

  • “Make the most out of tonight, and worry ‘bout it all tomorrow” – leave your phone in your bag or at home and just enjoy the moment, you don’t need to document it all on Snapchat.


  • “My excuse is that I’m young” – our generation is always on their phones, it’s just what we do. But that is not an excuse


  • “You only live once”  – literally YOLO but do you really want to live that life full of anxiety and suffering from nomophobia?


  • “Worrying about your followers, you need to get your dollars up” – your follower count does not represent your popularity or who you are. It’s not reality, spend the time with physical friends instead of those fake followers on your phone.


  • “If you think I’mma quit before I die dream on” – Challenge accepted, be the better person and sign and log out.


  • “I’m just saying you could do better” – even Drake knows that you’re not trying harder. Breaking up with your phone is hard but you will feel 10 times better without all that baggage.


  • “Know yourself, know your worth” – you’re better than your phone. You have the strength to put it down and focus on your mental heath and smell the roses.


  • “Started from the bottom now we’re here” – started with that strong addiction but now the anxiety has dropped because you’ve turned off my phone


  • “Sweatpants, hair tied, chillin’ with no makeup on” – no phone means you don’t have to worry about people seeing you if you don’t post that selfie on Snapchat or Instagram. You can look as chill as you want.


  • “Started not to give a fuck and stopped fearing the consequence” – YASSS getting offline and not caring what is happening, so much more relaxing isn’t it


So let’s all drake and chill without our phones.

x BL x

UNICEF Tap Project

How many times have you walked into a room and seen nearly everyone on their phones? 

With the world at our finger tips, we can access anything.  However this ‘connection’ isn’t all what it seems. This new co-dependency we have with our phones has us always holding our phones or checking them for the stupidest things reasons like ” just checking the time”. I have checked my phone to ‘see the time’ but actually didn’t even look at it and had to actually re-look at my phone.

Maybe this is why UNICEF has decided to tackle this addiction head on with their campaign ‘Tap Project’. The original campaign was for people to donate $1 at restaurants for a free glass of water. However, since 2014 they have recognised this addiction and have adapted the campaign for it to involve asking people to put their phones down when out. This year it began on March 1st and coincides with World Water Week.

e28ce820-7bb6-0131-bc94-2a5b0d875d28They have a specialised app that will count how long they can go without their phones and for every minute you don’t touch it, sponsors will donate $1. This will give one day’s worth of clean water to a child. Smart move my UNICEF to integrate this new addiction into a great cause. You will have a clear conscious and are doing a good thing not only to your own mental health but fundraising too.

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On their website, they say:

This year’s initiative provided clean, safe water for children around the world by encouraging you to stop texting, calling, emailing, tweeting and posting — and challenge your friends to do the same.

UNICEF’s aim for this campaign is to remind people how insignificant and #firstworldproblems not grabbing your phone the instant it buzzes is and to compare it to those in developing countries not having a basic need like clean water.

Last year it was very successful, as more than 2.6 million people spent nearly 255 million minutes not touching their phones, in just only a month and a half. This year, it was also very successful with today’s (22 October 2015) total days at 713 minutes, meaning water will be supplied for 71.3 days. More statistics of today’s results are in the image below.

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Here is the campaign video:

2015 UNICEF Tap Project: Put Down Your Phone To Help Give Clean Water to Kids

Put down your phones and give to a good cause. Kill two birds with one stone!

x BL x