Where are your manners?

Etiquette! What is etiquette? It is a set of rules and code of our social behaviour. So why is it important to smartphones and FOBO? It is because since our addiction, we have seemed to lose our manners in social settings. When you are out in a restaurant, how many people do you see on their phones?? Way too many to count.

We have looked at some research done by Pew and combined it with our knowledge of smartphone usage

So here  we have a new set of rules for –

SMARTPHONE ETIQUETTE

The DOs

  • use your phone in public spaces, even with the risk of walking into things. Everyone in the study agreed that it was ok to be on your phone in public areas
  • send messages in front of friends and family provided it is quick. It is a lot easier to read a text than send one, so people generally feel it is more acceptable
  • use your phone to take videos and photos. It is also allowed to post said photos or videos on social media, texts or whatever. Most young adults and teenagers do automatically, so  that is a little hard to stop
  • take phone calls in front of people. 52% of respondents said they do.
  • use your phone to look up relevant or important information! Google searches, ‘where are you?’ texts, what is happening tomorrow in the calendar – are all ok!

The DON’Ts

  • use your phones in meetings, work settings, class rooms, movies, anywhere you are expected to be attentive to someone else. Nine in 10 people said it was rude and unacceptable to use phones there.
  • use your phone at meals or eating when with other people, at home or at a restaurant. It is a big NO NO!!
  • use your phone as a shield to avoid someone or conversations. Apparently it is more common with women to use phones to avoid something/someone or they are bored
  • check notifications and your phone when you are with someone else. Only if it is necessary and a reason for it.

Most should be common sense but it will be hard to adjust. I mean sadly what happened to looking someone in the eye and giving people all your attention?  We used to see phones as a tool or as what it originally was invented for, to improve communication instead of the latter. Now we are allowing this tool to change our lives and the way we adapt to society. Phones are not really an issue, it is more the way they are used.

So use your manners and remember the smartphone etiquette or it’s #ByeFelicia to you!

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x BL x

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10 Ways To Overcome Your FOBO

A Gallup poll confirmed that 81% of people keep their phones with them ­almost all the time and 63% while they  are sleeping and 60% check emails regularly while on holidays.

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There are 10  ways that you can help your FOBO!! They are so easy and simple to do, can you believe that.

  1. Don’t bring your phone to bed. Leave it outside your room or somewhere you can’t reach for it in bed

2. Sign out of those annoying email accounts. If you didn’t see it, it didn’t happen 😛

3. Turn off those Instagram, Snapchat and Facebook notifications. That way in the morning you don’t see what you have missed. Mute those conversations.

4. Track the time you spend on your phone. Use apps or set alarms for how long to be using your phone.

5. Turn your phone off at night. Simple as that.

6. Dedicate a day to be a social media free day.

7. Put your phone chargers in weird places around the house so you have to go out of your way to charge your phone. Also your separation anxiety will get better

8. Don’t take your phone or turn it off/silent or leave it in your bag when at work, class or doing assignments. This will allow you to give your full attention to whatever at hand.

9. Move all your favourite apps and the ones you access the most to the last page of your phone so to use it, it is more of a chore.

10. Wear a watch so you don’t have to check the time on your phone. But none of that Apple Watch stuff, a real watch.

It is hard to remove yourself from this addiction but they do say – “It took you a long time to fall in love; it will take you a long time to fall out of it.” But we got you 🙂

List some more ways to create boundaries down below and share your thoughts!!

x BL x

‘I Forgot My Phone’

A short film was conducted in 2013 called ‘I Forgot My Phone’. It detailed the obsession with our phones and how we are becoming more isolated and not being invovled in real life. It has over 48 million views and was created by comedian and actress Charlene deGuzman.

The videos starts with a couple in bed, the woman played by deGuzman, with the boyfriend fixated on his phone rather than cuddling with her. It goes through regular day to day activities showing the life of someone without a phone. Instead of it portraying the positives of not having a phone like enjoying friends company, activities and life. It shows how lonely it can be and how isolated you really are.

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This video is a great representation of what is happening in today’s society. We might be ‘social’ and ‘involved’ when out with friends but we are not physically there. How many times have you  been out at dinner and been on your phone or been with someone else on their phone.  We are missing out on life and big moments because we are all too busy texting, Snapchatting and Instagraming the moment instead of actually being present and living them.

Not only is it lonely, but people are missing out on or forgetting basic subtle cues when with people. These missed facial expressions and eye contact change the whole conversation, tone and context. You may as well text them instead. Wifi and being online has become a basic need.

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x BL x

 

If it’s not on Instagram, it probably didn’t happen.

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Without our phones we feel naked, it is simple as that. We even pick phone cases that will match our outfits or will look good being held. All the technology and devices we own, whether your phone, tablets or computers, no longer are recognised as objects to us, but are considered an extra limb, your best friend or even bae. So maybe our phone obsession is getting out of control.

Here are some stories, courtesy of Elite Daily, that may hopefully scare you into going without your phone for one day or hour.

1. You might be sick.

Phone addiction has an official name, and there are actual treatment centers for it around the world. If you fear lack of access to technology… you have nomophobia, a term developed in Britain in 2008.


2. At the very least, it’s making you crazy.

A study out of Indiana University found that 89 percent of undergrads had experienced a “phantom” vibration, thinking they had felt a phone notification when there wasn’t one.

When your phone messes with your mind and sensations, you know you’re hopelessly addicted.


3. It’s kind of replacing your boyfriend.

According to TIME, 80 percent of 18-24 year old Americans sleep with their phones right beside them, for easy access first and last thing. If your phone is the only thing keeping you company in bed, it may be time to get out more.


4. It’s ruining your work and play.

Psychologist David Sheffield carried out a study in the UK, from Staffordshire University. He was shocked to find that  “7 percent said the use of mobile phones had caused them to lose a relationship or job.”

5. It’s become more of a priority than basic human essentials.

Of the roughly 7 billion people in the world, 6 billion own a cell phone. According to the UN, only 4.5 billion own a toilet. Additionally, more people own a phone than have access to running water. What even is happening?


6. What happens when you’re without your phone is terrifying.

One in five school kids in South Korea experience anxiety, depression and inability to sleep when separated from his or her phone, according to this Wall Street Journal article.

The Government is now having to put time and money into dealing with phone addiction and its negative side effects. South Korea is one of the few countries trying to tackle this addiction.


7. You forget how to live in the real world.

The same Wall Street Journal article states that people in South Korea are losing social skills rapidly. Kids are no longer good at reading facial expressions or intonations.


8. The numbers are staggering.

Data collected by a screenlock app say the average person unlocks his or her phone to check it 110 times a day. Some check it up to 900 times. That sounds like a huge waste of time, and worryingly compulsive.

If we did anything else 110 times a day, we’d be hospitalized.


9. Your phone is disgustingly dirty.

If you shy away from public toilets, you may be interested to know your phone is 18 times dirtier than the average public bathroom. From touching money, to touching dirty things, to sweating, your phone comes into contact with whatever you do.

And the more you use it, the worse it is. When did you last clean your phone or screen?


10.You could get really, really sick.

I hate to break it to you, but those hours you spend chatting on your cell as you walk to work or lie in the bath are really bad for you. For every 100 hours you speak on the phone (easily done for the addicts out there), your risk of brain cancer increases by 5 percent.

Try to keep calls short, and, linking back to point number 8, try to save the long conversations for in-person.


Time to check out some apps that might be able to help your ween off it – 2 Free Apps

x BL x

See more: 15 Scary Facts About Your Obsession With Your Phone That Should Worry You For The Future

Texting lanes: Is this taking it too far?

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Utah is apparently introducing texting lanes??? This is now becoming ridiculous. Are we struggling that much to lift our heads? This new “culture of walking and texting” is happening whether we are ready or not.

FOBO is a big issue at universities and colleges around the world as teenagers and young adults are the biggest culprits for phone ownership. So Utah Valley University (UVU) is taking it upon themselves to assist with distracted students crashing and has painted a ‘texting lane’ onto one of the staircases at the university. It divides the staircase into three sections – walkers, runners and texters.utah-uni-texting-lane-1-517x689

Matt Bambrough, creative director at UVU, commented “You have 18-to-24 year olds walking down the hall with smartphones, you’re almost bound to run into someone somewhere; it’s something we’re dealing with in this day and age.”

But lets be real though who hasn’t walked into someone around uni while on your phone or had to dodge someone walking and on their phones. The worst is when you are stuck behind a slow walker who is on their phone making you late to class or wherever you have to go.

Utah is the only place doing this though, so maybe we actually need to take this seriously instead of mocking the ridiculousness of this. As phone addiction and ownership continues to grow rapidly, the distracted phone user is potentially a risk to others and themselves. I know I have walked into walls and doors while texting or scrolling through my insta feed.

So should our Australian universities join this new trend or is it just taking it too far? 

In a city in Belgium they have created several ‘text walking lanes’ around the city  and Chinese city of Chongqing has created China’s first ever ‘mobile phone sidewalks’. One lane is designated for non-mobile users and the other for mobile users. To further improve the structure of the sidewalks, they have split each lane for the different directions.

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Belgium’s text-walking lanes

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China’s mobile phone sidewalks

 

 

 

 

 

According to a report by research firm Pew, pedestrian injuries due to handset distraction has increased by 35 percent within the last five years. The report also outlines that other US states have tried to combat ‘text-walkers’ and texting related pedestrian accidents. Utah and New Jersey have tried fines for wandering texters and reducing speed limits in certain areas for safety.

x BL x

 

10 Signs You Have FOBO

Move over FOMO, FOBO has come to town and the struggle is real. Who isn’t addiction to their phones these day. According to a recent Facebook study,  ‘Coming of Age Onscreen‘, 70% of girls and boys aged 13-24, need to check their phones wherever they are.

These days smartphones definitely don’t help this addiction. Everything we need we can access with a click of a button. Everything has apps, from banking, blogging, social media, your local gym, fast food to the best Instagram editing tools. 58% of smartphone users, particularly the 18-34 age group, can’t go without their phones for at least 1 hour, according to the Lookout ‘Mobile Mindset Study‘.

We are all so connected to our phones that if we don’t have them with us or we can’t find it we go into a mild panic. I’m sure most of us sit watching TV with our phones in our hand, just in case we could miss something. The signs of suffering for FOBO are further explained in the next post.

So here is the important question; how bad is your FOBO? How many of these signs do you find yourself relating to?

  1. Your first priority when at a friend’s house is asking if they have Wi-Fi and what’s their password

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2. The last thing you do before going to bed is check your phone. What happens if you miss something = world is over.

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3. You treat it like it’s an extra limb

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4. Planes and bad reception areas are the devil’s spawn

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5. You’re phone has become bae

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6. Misplacing your phone is like misplacing a child

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7. You carry around battery chargers.

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8. Buffering and slow loading pages = #dead

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9. 1% feels like Zayn leaving One Direction all over again

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10. You’re phone sleeps next to you….snuggle buddies

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Maybe it might be time for an intervention. So how many do you relate to? Do you maybe have a slight case of FOBO?

x BL x

ABC Gruen’s – The Pitch

To welcome back the 7th season of ABC’s Gruen, they tackled one of the more recent issues – FOBO and constantly being connected. Can they persuade you to give up your phones??

They tackle the idea from both Gen Y and Gen X and come up with two very different ideas. One side aims to create hysteria and fear for privacy with pushing the idea that your phones are never safe and are so easily accessible in today’s society. While the other side aims at an older demographic and illustrates the idea of ‘a real man uses a landline’, using concepts of Bond and powerful historical men.

Which one appeals to you more? Or do you think they missed the whole concept??

Check the video below:

x BL x